You now seem to be in the state of mind that has you not believing anything he says or does. Not passing judgement, just observing.
If that's the case, this co-habitation is serving no useful purpose.
Your comments will become the ammunition for an escape on his part at some point. He will be able to point back to your questions and implicit accusations and say that you would not forgive, you would not move past the past.
By the same token, I absolutely disagree that you should tolerate continued contact with the other woman in any shape or form. I know that some on this board disagree with me. I've pointed out before that Michelle herself states that the returning spouse MUST be prepared to sever ALL ties with their adulterous partner.
That's ALL ties. Not just the convenient ones.
You NEED to make a choice. By not making one, you are choosing to slowly tear apart what positive things exist between the two of you now.
BFM is right. Your current status is marital death by a thousand small cuts.
You CAN go back to giving him what you promised him in the beginning. 45 days to get rid of the other woman from the apartment. And if that is not met, then you really need to make him leave.
Or you choose to hash this out now.
Personally, I feel like you gave him a condition in offering the 45 day window to get rid of her, and you should stick to it. But I also think you should not tolerate ANY excuses for not meeting this deadline.
And maybe this needs to be re-addressed with him.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
