hey, lmg ~ I'm glad you started a new thread. I dropped in on you a while back (haven't had time/energy/whatever to post for quite a while) and was sad to see that things hadn't moved. On the other hand, your H hasn't moved either, and that's good, isn't it?
During the time I wasn't posting here, I was doing a fair bit of crying silently in the bathroom, after some time of not. I feel stronger being back here, but I know what you mean about expectations. Since my H made the decision to stay, I was expecting that there would be some effort - and there probably is a great deal, on his part, that I'm having trouble seeing because I'm working so hard myself. Reminder to myself - acknowledge that he is trying. I think I may have done that during a recent stressful conversation, but I'm not sure - I don't remember things so well in those situations.
Can you think of some other options? What would happen if you said 'goodnight' cheerily and gave him a quick kiss? What would happen if you changed your evening routine - if you don't read in bed, read in bed, if you do, read somewhere else - that kind of thing? Reconsider separate sleeping arrangements? Try some brainstorming with yourself to see what you can come up with, so that you feel more comfortable.
And now I have to get some work done - one of the reasons I haven't been here is that once I start, I can't stop and there are certainly other things I could be doing!
