I believe your H isn't going anywhere, that is why these issues you want to tackle with him can wait. Until you both have time and energy to work on it.
IMHO, waiting isn't going to get anyone results.
Tal, sometimes we all need a little push, sometimes even a shove, in the right direction. I was in a terrible funk with my H for the past two - three weeks, because I was stubbornly choosing to wait it out. I wasn't going to tackle any issues for him until he changed a little for me. Very wrong of me to feel that way.
Many times we get tired, frustrated, and angry about our sitches that we often paint ourselves as victims - we're doing nothing wrong, it's all H/W's fault.....Nope, sorry. It goes both ways, and we all need to remember that we are only getting one side of the story here. I'm sure our S's POV would differ a lot from our own. I've had a few other DBers point that out to me on my own thread. Very wise, they are, and it was indeed the wake-up call that I needed.
As I stated in one of my posts on my thread, something's got to change, and since I am the one who came here for help, then it is on me to get the ball rolling.
So that is what I'm also saying to you, tal. Stand up, dust yourself off, and get the ball rolling.
If you can give a little, you just might get a little back in return.
(((((((Tal)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
