I am a firm believer that the "goal" isn't always the "point". More often, the JOURNEY is the POINT. So, in this process, I know that God is shaping me to be the healthiest (physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually) woman that I can be. That is where my true success will be. The marriage flourishing is just a perk. :-)
You know you are right; the journey is the point. It sounds as if you have an open heart and are looking forward to growth and wherever that may take you. There are people who have been here years and not grasped that fact.
You sound like strong woman who has a good head on her shoulders.
I would imagine your H 'knows' you will be ok. Do you have much / any contact with him?
To answer your question. never give up hope, but that doesn't mean standing still with your life on hold waiting. Life is too precious and too short.
Nutty
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.