My point is to let him see some changes in you--not always doubting, not asking him if he is telling the truth, etc.

Maybe he expects you to ask him and as a result, he lies, kind of like a kid would do.

Remember what they say--it takes a long time to get over OW. He was only gone for 11 months which, to me, is a short amount of time. He is still not finished with his crisis and since he is home, it is best to be still unless you set boundaries and if he abides by them great, if not, you have some choices.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19