Transformer--I've been following your posts for a while now with no intention of posting, but I hafta say I love your enthusiasm and passion, and hoping your R goes well. (I've always been enamored with musicians; I think you have to feel _everything_ to be a good musician). My 2cents is to wait 2 weeks as well. Three is too long. You've got momentum here that you don't want to lose.
Another book suggestion is "Passionate Marriage" by Schnarch. I've found it invaluable and fascinating.
