Look at it this way, say you are her. You get a call from your spouse saying that things are slow at work and she had nothing to do so she thought she'd give you a call. Now you feel happy that she did think of you and gave you a call, but its more like a consolation prize, right? OTOH, if she called you up and said things are a mad house today, she's going in 5 directions at once but she put everything on hold for 30 seconds because she wanted to call you, that you are still more important to her that all this other stuff. Now, do you feel like a consolation prize or the grand prize winner?
Stop making her feel like an after thought. Walk up to her boldly, purposefully, at the WORST possible time, grab her in a way she likes and give her a kiss on the lips, not the cheek, and then tell her YOU wanted that and that it was not for HER at all. You need to TAKE from her, which shows your desire and commitment, which will make her feel wanted and safe. GO READ DIEDA
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
