Reclaiming myself and my life #6

[COG]

Frank,

You probably don't want to hear from me again so soon, but I know you're at least able to hear another perspective. You know I love you no matter what.

making assumptions about my anger or vindictiveness that is simply not true

Sorry, I must have not been very clear. I don't think you're angry and vindictive, your W maybe, but not you. I didn't mean to imply that. What I really meant to imply is that you sound beaten. Like you've given up. You sound a bit like you're stuck in the quagmire of self pity, the "whoa is me" stuff. It's not very attractive Frank, and you know that.

I've been lurking, staying tuned with your sitch. I don't know crap about MLC, and maybe your W is in MLC. But honestly, I don't think that's for any of us to judge. We all have our flaws. But what will WE do about OUR actions, OUR attitudes, OUR subtle criticisms, OUR judgements, OUR expectations.

My life is fine, but I'm still in the battle. If I'm not careful I can find myself right back in the pity pot. I hate that! No right now I am very strong. If my M breaks up tomorrow, I think I'll walk through it just fine. I'm getting closer to a place where worldly things like owning and controlling a S just isn't that important. The important thing is being able to accept a person for who they are, how they feel, and what they do without judging them, or trying to change them. Then we can decide if they're worth standing by or not.

Your W is the mother of your kids. I know that you know it is far healthier for kids to be with their parents than without. (I know the exceptions to this rule people so just don't jump me on that)

HERE'S MY MESSAGE: Don't quit! Fight to the death for your family. Know this is a spiritual battle between good and evil. Do not allow the good in you to be encapsolated in the darkness of depression and self pity. Keep fighting my brother, fight for YOUR peace, YOUR joy, YOUR courage, strength and faith. Stand tall and proud. Do not expect anything from your W. But YOU be the strong and beautiful MAN that you were created to be. Change your stredgy today! The one you've had just doesn't seem to be bringing joy into your life, or helping your M either.

What are your goals, and how will you achieve them?

Love,

COG