Please help me! Wife wants out! (5)

[Rob1231]

Hi Steve,

One other thing that I knew W had said to OM, and to me. She cant think about other people at the moment, she is busy in work, her bodies condition is getting worse, her migraines are getting worse... so she cannot think about too many things. She is just thinking about her and the baby. SO I guess that she is in a holding pattern at the moment. Dosnt want to deal with the wrench of letting OM go (or me?) at the moment. SO when she gets better she may be more inclined to do something about the sitch. All I can do is keep making myself the more attractive option.

You may see "holding pattern", but I see "coming around but afraid to take too big a step just yet". Which is perfectly OK. Time and Patience, still your best friends.

Kerry, I am not trying to escape, I just want to go somewhere I/we can be happy.

I know what you are saying, but I still want to say what's probably obvious: Happiness doesn't come from other places any more than it comes from other people. Happiness comes from inside - and once you "get" that, you will be happy regardless of who is around you and where you are.

I was massaging her lower back in the bed last night, me behind her. I started to kiss her neck. She told me to `not make her horny, as she needs to sleep`. I laughed and said `oh I can still make you horny then?` Again, just a coy smile.

Is it just me, or is it hot in here?

OK I think I am getting there. I am taking my postion back as her man slowly but surely. ANd she is moving back into the position of my woman. She wants to follow me I am sure of it. I just still need to prove a bit that I can lead her. I think she is liking our interactions for the most part.

Seriously, you are doing so well and it's wonderful to see her coming around like this. You know, it wasn't that long ago that a positive sign like this would have sent you way off course - now, you are sticking to your DBing with strength and patience. GOOD MAN!