Bring on the Rain

[SueS]

Hi!!

lwb & tal- Hi ladies. Thanks for stopping by.

It's a rainy day here in MN, but that's okay. I kind of like the rain every once in a while.

I had a few down days thinking of some things but I'm feeling better today. I broke down while on the phone with my mom last night. D4 saw me. She came over, gave me a hug and told me she loved me. My mom made a comment last night that kind of opened my eyes a little more about my H. She asked me exactly what was wrong. I said, well, work has been busy, which is good. But then I have to come home, the house is dirty, I want to spend time with D4, but I have to clean, bathe her, feed her and find time to straighten out my finances and find a place to live. My mom's comment was......while H just goes on his path forward and doing what he wants to do. The part of her comment that struck a cord with me was that he's just moving forward. You might be saying.....Ah, Sue, we already knew that. But see, my H has always created messes and then just walks away, expecting someone else (usually me) to clean it up. I was mostly thinking of financial problems when my mom said that, but it's not just financial. H will order something (a product or service) and then when he doesn't like it, he'll ask me to take care of it (return it, cancel it...etc). He didn't like our cable and wanted to order Direct TV. The cable is in my name, but was a bill he paid. When he cancelled cable, he just let the balance due go unpaid. I just found out recently that it is now in collections.....under my name. He ordered a couple of online services and had them billed to our joint checking account (before the A). He told me to cancel them. When I told him that I couldn't because I didn't order them, he told me to find a way to. Those are just two examples and it's in the financial area, but that spreads throughout all aspects of his life. I don't want to clean up his messes any more.

Well, I do need to get some things done here, so I'm signing off for now.

-Sue