As you read my ex-w and I have remained friends through all of this. It has been difficult and I've faced many situations like this. I think you handled your situation perfectly. Here's why
1. You walk away from the particular encounter knowing you did the right thing. You loved/love her and the last thing you want is to hurt her when she's down.
2. By not "kicking while she's down" you have served not to drive a permanent wedge between you and her which leads me to the final item.
3. When she's down, feeling bad about what she's done, how she's treated you you showed compasion which will only serve to make her wonder why you are being so nice. Validation needs anger to feed it in these situations. What you did was dump more cold water on that fire. It may not bring her back, may not change her mind but it sure won't hurt the cause if that's what you want.
I better get to work but know you'll be in my thoughts and prayers today.
Later Rob M/H: 40/36 S-9 t/m: 10/9 Sep/Div 7/06 4/07
