BE STILL, QUIET, PATIENT, AND DARK

[ACJ]

My ex LOVES that the OW is financially dependent on him

My H never talks about his OW (mainly b/c I won't allow it) so I don't know whether this is how he feels. HOWEVER his actions show that he does. We always muddled through financially mainly b/c I decided to be a SAHM for 11 years. He support me in that. However as soon as the youngest was old enough to go to school the pressure for me to go back to work started from him. IMO that's when our problems started. I wanted to go to uni full time and he wanted me to get a job. Guess who won? Now it's like he's making amends for those 'mistakes' but with the wrong woman. When he and OW first got together seriously she didn't work for 12 months. Meanwhile I doubled my hours. Even the job she has now is only temporary. He is paying for her to study an open university course at a cost of £7k over 6 years. I am now doing a part time uni course but only b/c I got sponsorship (and it's not the course I really want to do b/c i can only do that full time). All this whilst refusing to contribute to D12s holiday with school etc.