Better late than never?

[MichelleLT]

Cake-eating or not, you are making progress. Just remember, you need to make it easy for her to come back to you or the past, her pride, her guilt, or any number of things could stop you from ever reconciling. Be her friend, be her confidant, and keep working on yourself. Your actions, not your words, will show her the life she can have if she comes back.

I don't know about 40 things I admire about you...at least all at once. But work in compliments every time you talk.

And be patient. She is questioning her decision, that's GREAT news. But nothing will change overnight. So keep up the DBing and work on your detachment.