Mink, I would just carry on with life and enjoy as best you can. She's confused and it's maddening. I've read others on the Piecing threads who find this pushing forward then pulling back thing crazy making! I dunno about going dark but I do know if you put more into this than her it does become pursuing and pushes them away. It's such a helpless feeling isn't it. So do what makes Minkerman feel good right now but let her be for a bit.
Whatisis,
Wow, this really hit the mark for me! MM, I think it's solid advice, and I know how tough this must be. It sounds like a great discussion you had w/W. though--a gentle way to hold up a mirror to her on this. Helps her to see the bind--a bind that she is creating vs. you. These are tough calls but whatisis has good words I think (and relevant to me too!).
