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Hi AG,
Yes, Ashtanga is moving from one pose to the next, with breathing co-ordinated with the movements and poses. It is a hard work-out and also relaxing if done right. We always end with 10 min of savasina/meditation. I feel like a completely different person walking out than when I walked in.

Please correct me if I am wrong - I think I read that OM is married. If so, it could be that she won't be ready to jump the current ship until the new one is ready.

I am pretty sure she picked him out BECAUSE he was married. She doesn't seem to be able to be truely intimate with anyone, so this was a safe pick...married man 1200 miles from home, no chance of ever really having to share her whole self with him. She is scared of being a boring housewife, but also scared to being free, just scared to live a real life.

I think I read in one of your posts that you were considering setting up a trust for the kids education in their name. Did you ever do that? I would also consider listing them as beneficiaries to any life insurance with a non-W person being responsible for the funds. I think that is a good idea to plan ahead financially.

I still have to take care of this. I have been spending minimal time at work due to my training schedule, so bailing out for the L appts. has not been a real option. This (will/trust/life ins.) is definitely next on the list.

On a completely different note - have you ever considered that with time if W decides to give up OM and give the M another shot, you may be amenable. You seem to have detached and you did have a M that worked at one time. I have seen couples that sometimes go through a bumpy patch with seperation, affairs and maybe even D - and then with time are able to get past things and reconcile after 5 years or so.

AG, I really don't want to be with her. It has nothing to do with OM, I just don't think either of us will be happy in the long haul. The only reason our M ever "worked" is that I gave up EVERYTHING that was me and let her control all situations, finances, etc. I don't ever, ever want to be that person again.

I guess if she turned into a completely different person, maybe we could try, but this is not very likely. Anyway, after a D, she can always give me a call and try to win me back!

SD

ps - 4 days and counting to the big race...yeah!