Mike, in an earlier post you mentioned that you are going to C to save your marriage, your W is going to be friendly during this. What I'm about to tell you may not be correct but it is worth a try.
Our W's can see it all over our faces that we want to save our M, this lets them know that they have us so they have no reason to try, right? This is what I would suggest you do, when you go to C tomorrow, don't talk about R, talk about how you and your W can be happy after the D, I know this sounds weird but I am thinking this would be a huge 180 and will throw your W for a loop, she may begin to think more about what she is doing if she sees that you will go forward regardless of what happens. She will walk into C knowing what you are going to be saying so I am sure she will go in there with a negative attitude to begin with, change it up on her, see what happens. Once you do this, don't bring it back up. She will think more about what she is doing.
Now of course these are only my suggestions, they may be correct, they may not, hey there at least worth a try. Good luck tomorrow.
Good idea and good suggestion. I pretty much started LRT technique yesterday. I figured what the hell, what have I got to lose. I'm acting happy. I am not calling her or emailing unless it concerns D. When she drives up I meet her at the car happy and help her and D in the house. I chatted her up big time tonight. How's your day, HOW"S YOUR MOTHER!! anything and everything.
I will try your suggestion if she shows up for C tomorrow. personally I don't think she will show. It will surprise me if she does. I have not mentioned it to her or reminded her and I don't think I will.
Ping-I woke up this morning and and for some reason I was at peace. A peace that I don't know if I have ever had. I was so relaxed and I don't know if I have ever been that relaxed. Don't know what happened, don't know how. Maybe the power of prayer?? I do not know. I wish that feeling would set in-stay with me..if it does I can do this. If I could get in a no-emotion state of mind I could do this. I could turn this around.
My problem, I wear my emotions on my sleeve for everyone to see. I'm not a good actor either.
