breton, lol...my rope's been dropped a long time. No worries there. I'm an old pro now. It took me a while, but eventually you just fall into place with all of this. I don't DB or follow that kind of thing anymore. If I feel like telling him something, I tell him, or email him, whatever. No tiptoeing around my feelings. My situation's long past "stages" etc. This is what the aftermath looks like. This is when some H's come back wanting to reconcile. Mine did not. I post about it so that others can see, they don't always come back when they come out of the crisis.
You are right, though about the new R stage. I don't think about it too much, as it's happening so far away from me now that I can't let it be a problem in my life. Always is right; he is being dishonest by keeping silent, but then again I can't see my H ever telling any woman that he meets how he lost his mind for 2+ years, had an affair, a personality crisis and destroyed his life. Would that make him attractive for dating? I think not. That explains why he remains silent and pretends like that never happened at all.
He didn't actually say he wanted to keep things as a LS, but in that status he can still claim me as a dependent and in one of his jobs he collects more money per paycheck that way; this is helping him afford support for me right now. That's all it is; it isn't because he has unsure feelings.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
No worries there. I'm an old pro now. It took me a while, but eventually you just fall into place with all of this. I don't DB or follow that kind of thing anymore. If I feel like telling him something, I tell him, or email him, whatever. No tiptoeing around my feelings. My situation's long past "stages" etc. This is what the aftermath looks like. This is when some H's come back wanting to reconcile. Mine did not. I post about it so that others can see, they don't always come back when they come out of the crisis.