Tough Love through a Letter-Advice needed

[cagzmom]

I have read Dobsons book....and have read your letter.

I agree that the letter can be "dangerous" however the idea is that we are saying..."you are free....." if you really can say it then say it..but it seems as though the wording you have used is a "blame it on you.." kinda thing.

If you do something like that I would strongly suggest rewriting it many many many times...or JUST DO what it is that you are saying without sending the letter. BY SETTING HIM FREE. What does that mean? It means letting go---- and letting him go through this garbage....and SETTING boundaries for YOURSELF.

What works for YOU? What makes you be able to live in peace? Ask yourself those questions BEFORE you do anything.. ALSO another rule that i have learned is wait at least 72 hours before you do anything..