Dear Hope, my heart goes out to you. You did try. Sorry sweetie but this man is NOT OK. Not your problem, but until he actually faces up to what he has done he wil always live an emotional 'half life'. No consolation to you, because you are a wonderful, loving and courageous woman, who deserves much better.
For what it is worth, he is trying IMO to recreate what he had with you, and at some point it will all come crashing down him, but for now you have the pain of day to day living.
