To me it sounds as though you feel entitled to something from CB.
It was a brief, inappropriate R. You have acknowledged it was inappropriate. She ended it. She did nothing cruel. She stopped contact with you. End of story. She has no duty or obligation to continue to serve as your drug of choice during your emotional recovery from your separation.
As for this: "I just can't imagine how cutting off virtually all interaction with a man who has put no inappropriate pressure of any kind on you nor has he made any inappropriate comments or anything else is necessary."
Well, hogwash. The romantic/love/sex fantasy vibes were seeping out your pores through your fingers onto the screen here. I have little doubt that she was quite aware of your interest in her, whether you voiced them or not.
Regardless, the R didn't work for her. She ended it. It is really OK. The "cruelty" you point to is her failure to meet your emotional needs.
My XMC told me that when people change, they tend to over correct for awhile. So perhaps your lack of holding people accountable for their behavior when you don't like how they treat you is swinging to the other extreme. If so, it will probably settle out after awhile.
You don't NEED to explain CBs behavior to yourself. She chose to stop interaction with you, that is all you need to know. She doesn't need an excuse. She doesn't need to make amends for not being in your life the way you would have liked her to be.
The biggest problem here is that you were BOTH playing with fire. It was an unhealthy and inappropriate R. You were using her to bandaid. No doubt it has caused you both to feel some pain. But somehow, in your mind, this seems to be all about you and her purported ill treatment of you. Step away from the victim role. It doesn't suit.
You made bad choices. You don't like their result. Own it.
