Living one day at a time

[cw68]

I guess I don't think giving a little compliment asks for anything in return. That's why I thought saying something simple and with no expectations was the way to do it. Does she now think that you were waiting for her to say something? Because you were and that's expectations. Turning it into a little compliment and then walking away shows that it's no expectations. Did you do it to please her or to get a reaction? There's your answer. I think we all need a little pleasing before we can make any kind of a move. Heck, sounds like even a smile is a kind of a move right now. You need to do your part of the partnership to give her reason to smile, in this case she's obviously not just going to smile on her own.

Show off your roses, be happy about that, share their pleasure and be proud of your green thumb. This is then about you, not her, not your M.

[Sara]

H,

This is something I can't understand. Afterall, we are all reminded as life goes by to SMELL THE ROSES. What kind of people will pick beautiful roses and put them in a vase, and the other person sees them, and both say nothing? Do you mime to each other? What goes on in your house? Is the TV the only thing with a voice? Tell her. "did you see the yellow roses? They're from our garden. Aren't they pretty?" And then she needs to say something. What will she say. "Yes, but I didn't want to give you the satisfaction of knowing that I saw them because then you will think we can have sex!" Doubtful. Open your mouth.

[Dr LOve]

. "Yes, but I didn't want to give you the satisfaction of knowing that I saw them because then you will think we can have sex!" Doubtful. Open your mouth.

YES she may not say it but I think she will think it. I may just have been programmed from the past but she ALWAYS said “I did not want you to think everything is ok OR I did not want you to get your hopes up"

Sorry but it is hard when you keep hitting your head against a wall, sooner or later you stop...

[cw68]

I don't think you think everything is OK, but I think it's OK to get your hopes up that she may think flowers are beautiful and/or that it was nice of you to pick them for her.

Be the nice guy you are, don't let her beat that out of you.

[Dr LOve]

CW68,

OK OK OK

I will say something about the flowers.... Remember in 2 hours I will be in a Q.S work shop... I am nervus as it is...

How about " don't you think those roses are pretty?".. Then she can say what ever she wants and then I will say " well acutaly they don't look as pretty as you" and then leave for my workshop

H

[fightingirish]

h,

that's great... say exactly that.

and don't be nervous...


Oh I thought i saw you driving by today... guy that looked like you in a jeep..:)

[Dr LOve]

Tired,

I would need to take a loan out to pay for the gas hit $4.00 a gal this week..

Wish it was me, I would have bought you a drink..
H

[Sara]

You know what, H? I would leave out the compliment to her. Because that is the part where she goes off on thinking you are thinking something about what she is thinking, and it's way too much thinking. Just ask if she likes them. And if she says yes. Say something about it's nice to have them in the house, or something else that does not make her think that you are forcing compliments to get some pay back later.

[Dr LOve]

Good idea Sara. I have been told on the "other" board that I do need to start making some moves.
I think this is not only to help connect with my w but I feel I am starting to admire the other "Roses" a little too much. Something I would not have even thought of 2 years ago...

Ok so I will ask her if she likes them, then maybe they really came in nice this year....

WILL THAT BE OK CW68????

H

[fightingirish]

H,

I will take you up on that if you ever get over on the eastcoast!