My husband said he needed more space....

[addie]

Jen,
It's really not worth it to contact her. Your H WILL be furious with you and it will set you much further back in your goals. Whatever she tells you will not be the full truth. Contacting her may in fact push H in the opposite direction of what you want. You cannot control his actions anyhow. Concentrate on your own actions. You will be the better person and H may slowly start to notice it.