Tough Love through a Letter-Advice needed

[missmyfriend]

I sent the letter, almost verbatim, from the book. I think it was as much for me as it was for her. I will say that I do not agree with some of the book. I do not believe that being "tough" with someone in MLC (if that is what it is) is necessarily the right route, especially in my situation. If I told her, its me or the OP, she would probably never consider a relationship with me again. For some, I think it is a good direction to take because I have seen too many cake eaters. My wife does not appear to be a cake eater. She is either all in or all out. Right now, she is all out but I wonder if she is considering what she left.

Again, Dobson's letter, was good for me and my wife, in that she needed the door of the cage opened. She took it and I think it was the best thing I could have done followed by loving her from a distance and unconditionally.

My prayers are with you.

mmf