[quote=naej]H spends ferrying S15 about the less time he is spending with OW
I did say this
"Do not even concern yourself about what the ow is thinking. Your son has gone to live with his Dad for sons sake, not to help break up his Dads affair."
Just so we are clear. Hope today has been easier ACJ. We have had 2 warm (like T shirt warm) days---well for most of the day-like 4hours worth. But still makes you feel better.
Cat's quote was from something I wrote. Not sure why it's put your name thier Naej.
Today has been better so far. To be fair I was ok until the time that S15 normally comes in during the evening last night. That's when it hit me the hardest.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
that's good! and isn,t it nice to know whats in your fridge. That was the big thing when the boys left actually having a full fridge 2 days after my weekly shop- oh and the loo seat in correct position. Are the girls missing him or is that a silly question -too soon I guess.
Yes my fridge is definately more full than it usually is. Toilet seat has never been a problem (I trained him well ). As for if the girls are missing him, they haven't said so.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
My S15 just turned up out of the blue! I only spoke to him an hour ago to say goodnight. I was expecting it to be D18 knocking on the door as she has gone out with her friends.
He came to collect his school books that he needs for tomorrow and also Hs ticket for the Sports Awards. H sat in the car so I assumed OW was with them. S15 said she wasn't when I asked. So I went out to the car with the ticket so that I could ask H what S15s music teacher had said today. Guess what? He forgot to ring her. Well I could've predicted that. I didn't make a fuss about it and he said he would ring her in the morning.
My gut instinct told me to stand there and talk to him until S15 came back out with his school books but I didn't. I just said good night and see you tomorrow evening.
I'm getting a bit spooked that he is being so nice
S15 was coming back out the door as i went back in. I jokingly asked him if he wanted to come home yet. He said no. I just said well considering you didn't want to go in the first place that is good. Then I gave him a hug, told him I loved him and said goodnight.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Went to the Sports Awards at D12 and S15s school last night. I took D12 and H took S15. I was unsure whether they were there for ages b/c i couldn't see either of them. then it was S15s turn to get up on stage for his award so it became obvious he at least was there. He was wearing a shirt of Hs that I used to like on him. If it fits S15 now it definately won't fit H any longer given how much weight he has put on recently.
When I sat down originally I sat in a place where if H wanted to he could sit next to me (thinking he had not yet arrived). As it turned out an ex neighbour of ours came and sat next to me on one side and people I didn't know on the other. At the end of the evening it transpired that H had been sitting about two rows behind me all night. He had sat with S15s GFs parents as they were there for their younger son.
I asked H if he had called the music teacher again but he reminded me the teachers had been on strike all day. I felt a bit stupid at that point.
When we all left to go it was very hard for me. H had parked in a completely different place to me so left via a different exit. I hugged S15, told him how much I loved him and left with D12. The tears were welling in my eyes.
I know I have done the right thing for S15 but this has set me back emotionally.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I must be so hard to let your son go; I really can't imagine. You are a GREAT mum for putting his needs ahead of yours. I really mean that and I hope you believe it, too.
Nicola
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). As for if the girls are missing him, they haven't said so.