There has been a lot going on as far as H's parents.His Dad has not been gone that long and now not much time left for his Mom. SHe has a Dr.s appt. here today to discuss hospice and onocology for more CT scans.
Just hope H is coping with this and taking care of himself mentally. Physically he seems ok but, who knows. I am going to ask him tonight how he is doing with this. He is very much like his mom not wanting to deal with things, brushing them under the rug and pretending they are not a problem.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 04/23/0805:09 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
So he is an aries huh.. so am I ... the keeping things to himself deal is really not a typical aries.. I'll have to see if he is on the cusp.
We are a fiery sign... so you will have to tell me more about his actions towards you and the way he deals with things.. I need to get a better feel...
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I just talked to the onocologist and they said that the prognosis is very poor and that the only option at this point would be Chemo and only for comfort. It will not prolong her life. The thing is they want to do CT scans and Biopsies when we are thinking why, it won't help or change anything. They said they need the biopsy to determine the chemo they will use. The one they are thinking of, they don't think will make her as sick and actually will help her feel better. I have not heard of any chemo doing that.
MAT, tell me does hospice stay with the patient 24/7? what do they offer?
I just don't know if we should put her through this But, in the end the decision is still hers. She does still have some of her senses about her.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 04/25/0805:39 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
H is very quiet and never talks R or anything else serious for that matter. Puts things in the closet. Very hard working and will do almost anything for anyone.
With me he is attentive but still keeps to himself. Before all of this started he used to do little things for me like send flowers for no reason draw bath for me candlelite dinner once.
HE likes to cuddle loves sex but he is still having trouble connecting emotionally since his MLC and it has been quite a while now.
Any thing else you want to know?
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Jak, my MIL was actually in a Hospice facility (she was transferred from a hospital to the Hospice unit). It was set up to look like a home bedroom, not like a hospital room. There were 24 hour visiting which was nice. Staff were all caring and easy to talk to. In my MIL's case the staff helped the family prepare for her death.
I have known others that have Hospice nurses/staff come to the house. The level of care and amount of care would probably depend on the state of your MIL and could vary as her illness progresses.
It's a hard decision re. chemo, etc. I know my Grandmother decided herself to have chemo. Mom was at her side when she died at the hospital and she said she wished GM had not had to go through all of that. Hospice is not an option unless all treatment is stopped except to make her comfortable.
