actually i Always yell back (or at least set him straight) but when the kids are around I just remain calm and let him rant like a looney toon.No point in letting the kids see both of us like that.
I think if you yell back, he will continue to yell, at least that is my experience. But if you say something like your yelling at me is inappropriate or disrespectful or whatever, you need to stop, & in a calm manner then that may work better or at least it has for me. Then if he doesn't stop (which has happened to me) I would suggest leaving the room. I assume when I leave the room H stops ranting in front of my kids like he has done in the past! I don't think it is good for the kids to see us yelling at each other or H yelling at me (and being abusive) so that method has worked for me anyway. Karen
