If your H admitted that there was some sort of EA in the past, then even if it is "just friedship" it is a very slippery slope. In Venezuela, you may not be able to get your hands on the book, Not Just Friends, but it would really be worth reading. Usually when they claim, that they're "just friends" the R has already crossed the line. Most of the times, it isn't appropriate for a married person to be discussing their marital issues with someone of the opposite sex (especially when that person is a new friend). Here I am saying this and one of my best friends whom I've confided in, in the past, is male. But he's been a close friend even before I met H. There's a difference. My H denied it over and over again even when I showed him proof so take what he's saying with a grain of salt. He hasn't been fully honest thusfar. I think all of this is so much harder to deal with when there is OP. But it doesn't change the fact that you can't control H. Keep DB because that is the only way to save your M. Come on here and vent. Oh, and don't call her. You won't get the truth and H will be absolutely furious with you.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
