Have you asked her about why she is going to MC and yet has the filing going? I don't think that you are supposed to per DB but if you already have, what did she say?
You have to file and protect yourself. Don't let the legal D and reconcilation get mixed up. They are separate.
Eagle 2
I have asked. She has told me that she does not love me and is afraid that she can't ever get those feelings back. She has told me that she has worked at our M for the last 5 years and I have not been willing so she is done, has no more work left in her. She has told the MC, with me present, that she is afraid that if she stays in the M that 5 years down the road she will still be miserable and if she leaves the M that 5 years down tthe road she will realize that she has made a mistake. My W told me this past Friday that she fears that the changes that I have made will stick, she will divorce me and I will be someone else's Prince.
I have told my W that if we divorce I will move on, I will be happy. There will not be any reconcilation, I'll work my ass off to straighten us up now and get us straight forever if we stay together but I don't think I'm interested in trying to reconcile after the D is final. I'll feel like we are just getting back into the same old, same old. I am determined to not commit the mistakes in any more R's that I have, that I have committed in my 1st or 2nd marriages. I will find happy. I'm 44, I don't know if I have ever been truly happy. I have had happy times, fun times and wild times but I think I have wondered through life in just a contented state.
My sitch is a combination of things. Yes, I have been a major ass. Yes, I did not work at my M. Me and my MIL dislike each other. My W's medical problems, a child late in life.. many many things...but in my W's eyes--it's all on me. I've took responsibility for all that's happened in the past, I can now only take care of the future.
