what are you planning to do re: GAL activities now that the play is finished? Dance lessons? Sounds fun. Go sign up ASAP!
I was supposed to start salsa lessons tomorrow night. Class has been cancelled. =( But I joined a meetup.com hiking group instead - Yosemite is only an hour from me. =)
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Does your C see you and your husband? I am confused.
My C sees me of course, and just started seeing both kids. My (and the kids') C I guess I should say was going to call my H this week to talk about therapy with the kids. She's never met or talked to my H so far. She did say if he had ?s about the kids or therapy with her that she would meet with H, but I think it would all be related to the kids and their therapy. I doubt H will have that many questions, more just wanting to check her out maybe and make sure she's ok. Karen
what are you planning to do re: GAL activities now that the play is finished? Dance lessons? Sounds fun. Go sign up ASAP!
I was supposed to start salsa lessons tomorrow night. Class has been cancelled. =( But I joined a meetup.com hiking group instead - Yosemite is only an hour from me. =)
Salsa and hiking both sound like fun to me!!! I am still on the tail end of a cold/flu so next week I plan on looking for a part-time job. I'm not sure what GALing I will do yet to replace the play. But, maybe dancing or singing lessons, and I was also thinking about a book club (I'm also a big reader) at a new bookstore that just opened up nearby.
I also want to maybe take some home improvement type classes so I can work on fixing up our old 100 year old house. My H has never really done that, and I don't know how and have never done it really, so I want to work on learning more about home repair & stuff like that. My H painted one wall in the bathroom about 2 years ago and the others are still bare so I want to paint the bathroom too. That's actually first on my list--I just need to figure out a good color! Karen
Wow you sound so strong..this is what I need to do as well..I also admire you for not asking..I have a tendency to ask and ask and ask..it gets to be too much..
Me: 36 H: 34 2 D's: 10+13 Married: 13 yrs(Together 15) Found out about A-Jan 08 Finally ended April 08..I hope?? Struggling to co-exist in peace
Well the reason I don't ask is because often my H won't answer so I've learned not to ask! I do sometimes, and he is better about answering I guess b/c I am super careful not to ask too many ?s of him. Lwb, thanks for the tip about Lowes and Home Depot! I have a Lowe's not too far away from me, so I plan on checking with them first.
My H is definitely a bit friendlier (not a lot) but for example, he was so distant/detached when I used to sit down on the same couch as him he would immediately move. Last night the kids were sitting on the other couch, so there was no place else to sit except on the floor or next to H. He didn't move last night after I sat down and then I left after 10 or so minutes (1st to leave , so I guess he doesn't loathe me anymore or whatever that was a few months ago!
I dreamed last night my H hated me, but a lot of his anger towards me really seems to have disappeared lately. I told my C yesterday fighting with me is like fighting with water; it's pretty impossible right now (I am pretty calm, cool, collected, & friendly with H and everyone really). I've noticed that as I am friendlier & happier btw, that everyone else in the world seems to be happier & friendly to me too. It's very cool!
On today's agenda I have planned trying to clean the house some more (let it go these last 2 weeks I've been so busy) and planting sunflowers with my D8. I have a brown thumb, so I am hoping she has a green one to make up for mine! Karen
My H spent tonight again with the kids at our house, ate dinner with us, and some chocolate cake D8 & I had made actually mostly made by D8 (she even cracked the eggs & didn't have any shells in the batter)!
I went to work out for part of the time upstairs while H was at our house so I didn't hover. I did spend a half hour watching cage wrestling with him before he left and talked H into watching one extra fight before he left!
We got along great as usual lately. H seems less angry and more friendly now; it is a nice change! He's not working much lately on the house in efforts to sell it; so it doesn't seem like he is rushing into divorce. But I also don't get any impression that he is wanting to move back in or reconcile either.
The kids and I were close before H moved out and now are even closer, and I think H must see that. Both kids seem almost to avoid H sometimes and hug on me instead: I guess they are seeing me as the stable one they can count on and they have lost that feeling about their dad, unfortunately. I am glad he is trying to see them a lot. He is going to come over early Sat. night (I'll make dinner again probably) and then will take the kids to sleepover at his apt. which is going to be weird for me without the kids that night! Karen
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