Thank you Dar....I have done that before. Hope you are doing ok today.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I have some serious health issues right now, but I'm doing okay about it. It's out of my control really except for the mental attitude of it. It's on my thread though sweets.
well, good news I guess....my H texted me to let me know that he is trying to change some things so his Insurance will cover his therapy sessions....
So hopefully he will keep going. I guess he finally sees the seriousness of his sessions.
I have to say a few things about him that I have noticed since the bomb in Dec 06.....
One things being a big deal: He can say he loves me now. Before, I couldnt get him to say those 3 words without him breaking out in a sweat, actually he just wouldnt say them at all. Now ever since therapy, he can say them words and he knows and I know they dont mean "in love", but at least he can say them and understand them better.
He also knows that this is about HIM. Its not about me, or the OW. He knows he must fix himself before he can fix a marriage. He is trying to do that through his therapy.....and time.
Oh man, this MLC crap takes an awful long time! Patience is needed....Im running out!!
I get a few hours without the kids tonight....going to my parents. I have learned I cant stay home alone for too long. Especially when Im in a mood.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
And I completely know what you mean about staying home alone. I sometimes have to find things to do (even just running to the grocery store) just to get out and keep my mind busy!
Hey Dar...sorry people are blasting at you on your thread....people will believe what they want to believe. You shouldnt argue with them though....just ignore them if you dont like what they are saying....Like I said, if you arent telling the truth, it is between you and God. Im not saying I do or dont believe you. I would like to just because it would be an awful thing to lie about.
Im so glad I dont get that on my thread here. I would have to quit posting.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
It's hard for me to ignore people bashing at me like this. I know I've been here a long time now. I know I should be farther in the process of DBing than I am. I don't feel that's reason enough to be mean though. Why would I be lying too? That's just sick to me.
Thank you for your support on my thread too! It means alot!
You know Dar...I have been here for quit a while too. I remember you spinning alot! Really, but we are who we are. I would just not respond to their posts. Im not bashing them at all. But it seems to the point where you should just quit arguing with them. They either believe you or not. You cant make people see what YOU want them to see. Tell them once and if they dont believe you, well that is their choice.
Ha!! My H's therapist told him that!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Ok....so, I know my H is back with the OW....he is lying and saying all the same stuff he did before, but his actions are speaking louder. I called him out on it last night. Called him a liar.
So, without giving him a chance to explain, I have gone dark. Not heard from him today at all.
We have ball practice tonight. Im sure he doesnt remember. I wont remind him. Our son has a ball game on Friday night. I wont remind him. He has been told of them all.
I am sick of being played by him. I am sick of being on that string. He has broke the OW and her Boyfriend up. He interfered with their relationship. He is sick and still will tell me he loves me. Even sent me a text yesterday that said something about friendship and "I love You". Whats even sicker is he sent it to me AND the OW. I saw actually 4 people he sent it to.
Ugh! He knows I am pi$$ed at him for making it seem he was letting the OW be.
I should have known. 2 weeks is about all he can do away from either of us.
I will be taking my separation papers to a lawyer next week. Im sure however he will be right back asking for another chance again in a few weeks.
Thing is, I went semi dark on him the last two times...and he came back. I dont know what to do>
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I'm sorry your going through this! It's sad and upsets me to see any of us going through it.
Do what you feel is right now and worry about the other stuff later. You can't wonder what he'll do in response to the seperation paperwork since you don't know. I would wonder what H was doing after I emailed him or whatnot....wonder if he smiled at my message or was annoyed. Then I wouldn't hear back from him right away and assume he was upset but he was just in a meeting and all was well with us. Wondering only drives us nuts sweets.
