It is so good to hear from you. Yes, I was a real pain-in-the-butt newbie and I think your posts and especially JenJam's list were really life savers for me. I cannot thank you enough for that. As you can see, I shared the knowledge (with proper citation!) with gabbysmom23 a few days ago. She is going through a real tough time.
I think that I just had this unrealistic expecation of a big happy ending to all the bad stuff. DB teaches about expectations not being your friend. I should have realized that piecing is a begining and not and ending. I think I have my mind around that now, so I am just being patient and letting W know I love her and the kids and want us all to be happy. W is onboard with our R and has really been great for the last couple of months. I have no expectation that this will continue and there is proably a relapse scheduled for down the road so I am waring my flak jacket.
W is dead-set against MC. Her belief (and I try not to argue the point) is that people should work out their own problems. I guess some day she might want to try it, but for now, the ostrich strategy is her coping mechanism. However, I will mention going to MC (only one time) so that she knows what I want and she knows it is an option.
I am still just a bit angry (but manageable), but I am certainly a Hottie!
Again, thanks for your post and especially the early-on ones. You have no idea how much they helped. God bless you, sweeetheart.
Best, ---Chrs
Me: 40 She: 31 S: 5 D: 3 Married: 8 years (05 DEC 99) Blow-up: 02 JUN 07 Piecing (More like Ostriching): 22 FEB 08
