I mentioned the 10% thing while on the phone with H this morning and he thought it was reasonable and was OK with it. I decided to just shoot it out there in a non-confrontational manner as we were going through kind of a check-list of things going on. I also told him that I am pretty stressed out about his Mom's visit in terms of the condition of our house. My MIL is an insanely clean person and every time she comes she comments negatively on the condition of the house in some way or another. She'll clean garbage cans, attack the coffee pot and the like. There is six inches of dust everywhere in my house right now. I have workers here and haven't been able to keep up with the laundry. It's all CRAZY. So I told him that I was going to send his Mom a lighthearted email to prepare her for the condition of the house and ask for her understanding. My H actually said that he'd shoot her an email asking her to "chill on that front." It's kind of a big step for him to do that.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09