"Saru mo ki kara ochiru."

[missmyfriend]

It all depends on the choices people make. I was taking exception where it said "many S's in this situation marry down". There are those that make decisions, fully cognizant of their decision and could care less. If we are talking MLC, and our loved ones really fall into that "diagnosis", are they really "bad" or "damaged"?

Using words like many, most, almost all, or anything similar to group people has a tendency to overemphasize or mischaracterize people. Some people are bad but to say many are marrying down can be translated as saying that most of our spouses are "bad" people. I agree they are making bad choices or decisions but I would not say they are bad people. In some cases, their judgment may be impaired.

Some of my friends on this board and some who are posting in this thread have reasons to feel that their spouses are bad, not just bad at making decisions or selfish choices, but people that have little morals or ethics and maybe never did.

Unfortunately, after going through what we have experienced, it is challenging not to become "damaged" ourselves.