Sounds like you had a nice and relaxing weekend and a great time with your kids!
Swimming at sunrise sounds beautiful. I had to google ashtanga yoga - is that one where you move from pose to pose?
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Mostly. At least as good as ever. But this isn't really the point, is it? She IS their mother. They love her and she loves them.
I read so many posts where the x seems to walk away from the kids. I think it is a good thing that W is a good mother and that you can see that even though the two of you are not really in an M type of R anymore.
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I have made peace with the fact that I cannot control her into doing what I want. I am not willing to live like this forever, no specific time line, but not forever. I just would like her to work with me for an amicable split. Since she refuses to do this for the time being, we are where we are.
Plese correct me if I am wrong - I think I read that OM is married. If so, it could be that she won't be ready to jump the current ship until the new one is ready.
There really is no rush to move things along. It's not like you are putting your life on hold. You seem to be doing the things that you want to do and your posts do reflect a sense of peace.
The challenge ahead is the dismantling of the infrastructure when the D does happen. That takes a little while to get use to and the process is a royal pain in the you know what. I think I read in one of your posts that you were considering setting up a trust for the kids education in their name. Did you ever do that? I would also consider listing them as beneficiaries to any life insurance with a non-W person being responsible for the funds. I think that is a good idea to plan ahead financially.
On a completely different note - have you ever considered that with time if W decides to give up OM and give the M another shot, you may be amenable. You seem to have detached and you did have a M that worked at one time. I have seen couples that sometimes go through a bumpy patch with seperation, affairs and maybe even D - and then with time are able to get past things and reconcile after 5 years or so.
