I just glanced through your thread, so forgive me if this is repetitious. Sounds like she was never really back. But what really struck me is that she is still in a place where she thinks marriage is about your heart going pitter-patter all the time. She won't be able to give you what you need, because she is too busy looking at what she needs.
It's great that you are staying "friends", but I'd suggest using this time as she suggested, to discover what life is like without her. It could actually be really good. She won't come back if she sees you needy and desperate for her. And you hopefully wouldn't want her back again if she wasn't truly willing to work through her issues. She'll just leave again, because frankly, marriage is not great excitement. It's comfortable...not adrenaline packed like a new hot and heavy relationship. I think there was a time that my wife was like yours, concerned that she made the wrong choice coming back. The only difference is that my wife worked through it and stayed.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
