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SF:

I have been following you for so long and admire your strength.
It's funny, my H too can't understand how i could still stand by him and love him. He told me last night he was sorry for being such a wreck and a wretch. They just don't understand unconditional love and forgiveness.

They truly are messed up....It is so scary how similar our H's are.

I will be praying for you.

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SF,

This ride isn't for sissies.

You have proven that you are far from a sissie.

You're one of the strongest women on this here board.

You have done and continue to do your damndest (in the good way).

Chin up cowgirl. Dust off.

No one is telling you to quit.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

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Thanks for the compliments but if it weren't for this board and for my faith, I would not even be here and I would have been divorced three years ago.

I know I am strong and sometimes that is a good thing and sometimes not but I plan to continue being the rock for H.

NO, this is not easy by no means. The hardest thing ever to go thru.

Time for me to get to work.


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
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It's good to hear the talks have resumed with your H SF. It's also good to hear that there are no talks of D. I wish I could say the same.


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M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15
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(((sf))).

Good going on the NC, it does seem to work well.

I may have missed this, but do you and/or the kids go to Alanon? It might be fruitful based on what you've posted about the drinking aggravating the MLC stuff.

Just a mention.

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SF,
Nice work! He just needed some time to settle down again and "sense" he wasn't going to be punished by running again. I never doubted that you wouldn't hear from him. Your faith is the strongest on the board and it will continue to guide you throughout all of this.

Keep thinking positive!


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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I am okay.

He initiated contact the night before but lastnight there was nothing. I am not upset or disappointed. The texting/phoning usually happens at around 11:30PM so I am not complaining. Heck, I needed the sleep!


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
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Steelers, I just got back early this morning and just caught up on everything that happened to you. It's rough that you are going through this again, but amazing that yet again you are able to bear this cross. God surely is in control, especially when yet again your H contacts you in a positive way. It is an inspiration to see you pick up and get ob with life, even though it's so difficult.


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PH:

I knew that this might happen.

Still no contact for two days now. H has not spoken to or called S17 for two days either.

Snodderly: Is this different from when he initiated contact before he moved home over a month ago--he was texting/talking to me everynight then. Now it was this one time and now there is silence.


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
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Still no contact for two days now. H has not spoken to or called S17 for two days either.

Personally I think this is significant. Up to now he has always contacted your S17 even if he didn't contact you. I think he is doing some very deep processing.


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15
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