Have you met with a good attorney yet to find out what your options are?
I'm afraid that your pursuing/needy/grabby behavior, alternating with passive-aggressive, is only aggravating the situation and pushing your husband further away. You need to do some heavy reading on DETACHMENT, calmly come up with a PLAN (legal, financial, marital), and then summon up all the courage and strength that you can muster and EXECUTE IT.
That last part, we all here can HELP with. But the rest is up to you. You need to gather yourself, STEEL yourself, and figure out what you want to do here.
