Mink, I would just carry on with life and enjoy as best you can. She's confused and it's maddening. I've read others on the Piecing threads who find this pushing forward then pulling back thing crazy making! It's much more straight forward when she hates ya isn't it I dunno about going dark but I do know if you put more into this than her it does become pursuing and pushes them away. It's such a helpless feeling isn't it. So do what makes Minkerman feel good right now but let her be for a bit.