A lot of people didn't agree with my approach as I continued to have sex with my H while he was living with someone else.

Both of us think it was the small thread that kept us from breaking apart entirely.

With sex comes feelings. Not as quickly for men since they are able to seperate the two easier than women, but the intimacy does help. Read some of the Marriage Builders stuff about meeting emotional needs.

Good stuff, especially at the stage your H is in.

BFM

There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.
David Burns, Intimate Connections