How did you force him out? I really need to know since everytime I have tried to do that and the man won't leave!

I think it sounds like you did really well. Maybe some time away is just what you two need. I heard that "I have changed...I am not the man you married" stuff as well. I think it is true to a point. And if I wasn't married to him, I would just let him go his own way, but I was serious when I said those vows. My thought are all over the place right now.

No one thinks you are selfish at all!! You did what you need to do. That is totally great! Keep up the good work.

Sara

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08