Anniversary I'm usually a card and flowers yes and that is the one I am going to find more awkward I think. For birthday, I don't mind the getting the pressies as they are a gift either way, but an anniversary is something more if you like.

I am at the moment thinking of getting a card and having it ready written etc and then see what happens. I might even get 2 with different messages depending but got a little time to see what goes on before then.

so, how do we know if were making progress ? I mean, I know the book says list things you'd like as small steps and as I say above, I have seen a few that I would have listed a week or so back, but GFI is telling me to be careful... Confused a bit.