MM, you're a study of someone with a plan. I can see why you want to do this. Part of it is for the shock to her, the other part is to take some control. I'm struggling with this idea too.
I think right now it wouldn't hurt anything and could possibly help. Keep the "lovingly" part in mind.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
