Hi! I'll take advice, a warm shoulder, a kleenex almost anything ya got!
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It sounds like he's been lying - at least by omission
Bingo. I told him that and he said he's trying to protect me...oh my what BS!! I told him all I want is the truth.
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Does he get to define what the "real issues" are? And the real issues are all about you and your behavior, but not so much about him and his choices?
We both made mistakes in our M. Deep down I think the majority are our reactions to each other. We have both taken ownership of our own issues now but I'm not sure if we did well with that area before.
He has been seeing an IC but won't go to MC with me. I asked him 3 years ago to go but he refused and has done so ever since. I think what he meant by the real issues are how we got to this point and how each of us can heal.
I think he's in IC because he is depressed about our whole sitch but he gets upset with any T who wants to discuss our M and the reasons why he wants a D too deeply. Our friends have tried to talk to him about us but he won't let them go too far. They are getting pretty annoyed with him at this point. He has found new friends who don't know me and therfore cannot voice unbiased opnions.
I cannot be around him nor should I at this point. Now I am really looking forward to his trip.
Jen
Last edited by JenInVen; 04/23/0802:46 AM.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
