I don't know if you guys remember my fist thread where I told everyone that H had an EA in January with a student. I came across a MSN chat between them and then when H left in early Feb. I confronted him. He said it was nothing and that it was a moment of vulerability that was over before it started. I believed him and tried to move past it. It was difficult and I made sure that he didn't continue to teach the class. I arranged for another teacher.
Well, I found out last weekend that they went to the movies together and he's been doing favors for her every now and again. They've had lunch, one evening before he left our home he "accidently" met her at McDonalds with D and her D, he calls her on weekends and he's seen her and her D. He told me all this.
On Thursday I told him that I wanted him to stop calling her. he promised he would but that I also needed to drop it and let it go to be able to focus on the real issues. I promised too.
I can't let it go. Today she called him and he was so sweet on the phone. I got so angry. He refused to talk to me and then we fought. I feel like there's something else there. He says she's decided to commit to her M and to try and resolve their problems. Great right?! Well why is she calling my H? She finds reasons to talk to him. Maybe H gives her attention her H can't/doesn't? If its just a friendship then why doesn't her H know they're friends? Why should she get to have her H and be friends with mine?
I am so POed right now.
I don't understand whats going on. I want to believe my H and I know he's sorry for what happened in January but what is he hanging on to? Why does he choose to befriend her?
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
