Right now, her actions are speaking a whole lot louder than her words. Hanging on to a pending OSC for support, when I'm already informally paying her more than she would get.
Here's your problem right here. Why on earth would she go through with the divorce when she can get more money by stringing you along? IMHO, this is a mistake, to make it financially advantageous for the WAS to keep stringing you along.
Either get the divorce OR cut back what you pay her to what the courts would order. IMHO.
