Time to turn it around

[Maya44]

Let the past posts go and focus on the future. People change and are told to do so. You have me changing for the good now and should be happy instead.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Okay, so I've been trying and trying. I've been called lazy, selfish, a beotch, angry, bitter, etc etc. by more than one person here too. I will agree w/being selfish (wanting more than one can give or expecting too much) as well as being an angry person.

I have found these 2 things out by talking with God and asking him to help reveal areas needing improvement. I will continue my work as usual, even better, since I see a change in myself and the way I'm going.

For those that have called me the characters above, I would have to suggest a same look towards your God. Calling someone a beotch or angry when you are as well doesn't do anyone any good and only makes the name-caller look like a hurtful person when we know that most of us here are genuinely good people.

Let the past posts go and focus on the future.

Get some professional help.

[sgctxok]

Let the past posts go and focus on the future. People change and are told to do so. You have me changing for the good now and should be happy instead.

I think this is the best approach. In one sense, everyone here has been 'working' way harder on your marriage, than you, Dar. But--you ARE changing a little.

It's time to stop the banter over whether Dar is actually DBing or not. If she doesn't really do it, don't spend posts and threads arguing about it...just move on to someone else.



I believe Dar has been 'bashed' not DBing more than almost anyone in recent times. There are a LOT of folks who haven't really done the things that work.

Dar- you've really had the best of the best working with you. Take it and RUN with it. You've gotten attention others would love to have.



But let's move forward, advice or not.....but this bickering about it is useless.

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((((dar)))))))
First, I am very sorry to hear or your diagnosis. I hope everything works out there.

As far as everything else, I think you have tried. I think you are hardheaded. I think you sometimes get off track. And I think you can do better.

So have at it!

[sgctxok]

Dar-

I'm praying for you.

sg

[Maya44]

Thanks Jeff and SG. I appreciate it.

[Cinderellaman]

Dar, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis, my friend had the same one last year and she went through a very big operation having her uterus removed. It was nothing to make fun of...it changed her life.

I hope all will be well for you.

Please Dar....just BE...just BE and don't explain or try to convince the world of who Dar is....the world will know.

Take care xx

[Maya44]

Thanks Cinders. I'm also not trying to make it a joking matter, but I put humor in things when being nervous.....reason why I said "maybe I could lose some serious weight now".

I will just be though...here, with the M, with the outcome of all of this..... thank you so much.

[kissak]

Hey Dar....hope you are doing ok today.

[Maya44]

Yea, I'm doing pretty well today. I don't have those nagging thoughts in my head and I've got a smile on my face. Couldn't ask for much more.

How are you today?