When you get to the point that you are able to let go enough of your former need based attachments to your wife and see her as a seperate person with the right to make her own decisions, it gets MUCHO easier.
We are taught that "the two shall become one flesh". Yet, we must remain individuals with our own two feet underneath us to remain healthy.
The caveat to your wife having the freedom to make her own desicions is...she also has the responsibility for the consequences of those decisions. Let her take the consquences.
Things are going well here. It is hot and muggy and my apartment has gnats! I called the apt. mgr and said "Hey apartment manager guy, I have gnats!" and he said "we all do. It happens this time of year, nothing we can do." Then I mentioned the spiders and silverfish and he agreed to exterminate on thursday. I was prepared to mention roaches, rats and snakes if I had to.
H is now saying ILY daily. I went home this past weekend and it was great. We got alot done around the house and really enjoyed each other. H got teary eyed when I left Sunday and I felt a connection with him that I have never felt before. Like everything was just as it should be that we love and respect each other very much. I have NEVER felt this loved in our entire R.
Hang in there my piecing friends. Hold onto yourselves, love and nuture yourselves and get to the place where you know that no matter what, you are going to be ok. Things get so much better from there.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt. M-42, H-42. M-22yrs, together 27yrs, Sep 5yrs. D-22, S-18 I'm a survivor
