Time to turn it around

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Dar,

Gosh, I came to check on you and I wasnt expecting all this! Are you ok?? You havent really elaborated. I'm so sorry to hear that you have cancer, seriously...are the surgeons going to operate straight away? And yes, have you told your H, because of course you must (forget the NC crap, he needs to know that the mother of his child is going through this and regardless of his knowing her schedule or not, hes going to have to learn it). But seriously, how are you feeling about all of this?? You seem to have been more discussing the people on your thread than the fact you just found out you have cancer.

I want to say, I am on your side in the comments you've made, in taht, I agree, you need advise, you needed to change and stop going round in circles and getting nowhere, you needed to do something different, get a better PMA, GAL more, etc, all that stuff people nag you to do.. but, I agree, there are CONSTRUCTIVE ways to say these things, theres is absolutely no need to resort to name calling. I really think some of the people who post to you should be ashamed of themselves for their vitriol. And if they are so mad and frustrated with you that they feel the need to resort to sarcy or mean comments, then, why say that? Just dont post! Step away from the PC and go eat a cookie or whatever! Dont just verbally assault some poor stranger who is clearly struggling to accept that her M broke down. Yes ok, maybe give tough love, try and explain what needs to be done, but dont be nasty with it.

Other than that...seriously, how are you?

Ali xxx
PS: the person who posted here suggesting Dar made this up should be particularly ashamed of themselves!