Ouch! Nasty dream, Aud! Not sure how you can be more 'safe' for your H to open up. Some men never really learn to discuss their feelings with anyone, not even their wives (my H sure doesn't ... he will discuss facts and events about work and trips, but rarely our R or anything about his feelings except maybe he was frustrated or angry, or it was a good day, etc.). Try not to take it personally, and if he ever does speak about something effecting him (work issues, or whatever), be open, and interested, and let him talk without giving your opinion, just validate (and give him cues, such as, "so, what happened then?"), and then, much later, give him a 'gift' (nothing obvious), for example, his favourite dinner, or extra hugs.
You've probably done all this, but it bears repeating (for all of us on the piecing road), doesn't it?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
