Sex enough to rekindle marriage after E&P Affair?

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H has been home for a little over a month now, he states there has been no contact with OW since 3/17/08, maybe but not certain. We have had some rough spots he has said things to hurt me but not sure if its just to get back at me for saying I needed time to get over affair before I could let him touch me again . He saids he has become very selfish and shallow he states his standards are much higher since affair. It seems she was younger mid to late 20's (but not sure), probably thin, pretty and had a pretty good career that she could have taken care of him but he said he didn't want that and wants his family back but at the same time still has some feelings for his play thing. He states he is trying to get back feelings for me, says he doesn't care about me like he use to but to give him a chance to try to get those feelings back. I'm not sure how to do this? Half of me wants to kick his sorry a** and the other half is wanting to give him a chance for all our sakes but to stay alittle detached to keep from getting hurt again. I am not sure about reconciling through sex, (yes I gave in) I don't know if that will work, but it was one of the reasons for the affair I was too distracted and we were living apart because of work but he's home but not completely there. So here's the question is it possible to find love again after an emotional and physical affair and to get back in love with your spouse?